You Can't Cure Crazy

As much as I would like to believe that everyone has an ability to change and to grow, I'm becoming more and more convinced that some people can't. They're crazy, and you can't cure crazy.

Now, before I go any further, let me just clarify that someone with a mental illness is NOT crazy. Crazy are those people who are able to see what is going on, can recognize problems with a particular situation, yet, for some reason, choose to continue on a destructive path.

I think we all go through crazy phases in our lives. It's part of growing up. But, crazy phases are just that, phases. The crazy is a temporary event that will eventually pass as each of us "comes to our senses." There are those that choose NOT to come to their senses, though. If this was the extent of the problem, it might be irritating, but not necessarily damaging. The problem with crazy people, though, is this--If you don't agree or cater to their craziness, they will do all in their power to tear you or your life down. If their life is chaos, so must yours be in order for them to feel "normal."

Instead of trying to help these people, in order to save yourself, you have to cut off the crazy. This won't be the popular choice; and just like a two-year-old throwing a tantrum, the yelling and screaming will increase temporarily. But as you break away from the crazy, as you let the self-destruction take place and don't try to "fix it," you will feel your own strength increasing. You will become a better you.

Because, eventually everyone learns, you can't cure crazy, but you can cure you.

“No one can drive us crazy unless we give them the keys.”



                                                   ~Doug Horton

PlayingTug of War

Have you ever played tug of war? Have you ever been stupid enough to play tug of war with God?

I have. Not that I'm proud to admit it; but, dang it, there are just some things I wanted to make go my way. I figured if I prayed hard enough, explained eloquently enough to God my vision for what I wanted to happen, then He would see the wisdom of my plan.

Surprise, surprise! God won the tug of war. He didn't pull me down in the mud. He didn't drag me to His point of view. He just waited for me to grow weak from struggling against His will and His plan. When finally my will grew weak from all of the straining against Him, God basically said, "Please listen."

I prayed that He would show me His will, but I didn't really want to listen. I wanted to hear what I wanted to hear. But God honored my request, waiting until I was tired enough to listen to what He had to say.

Now, am I happy that my oh-so-brilliant plan wasn't chosen by God. Nope. Closer to heartbroken. But, I do have enough faith in my Lord to know that, whatever HIS plan for me is, it will be so much better than anything I could ever dream for myself. I just have to be strong enough to wait and see what that plan is.

“I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much.”



                                                        ~Mother Teresa

T-Shirt Wisdom

Okay, I must admit, I'm a bit of a sucker for funny t-shirts. Especially on dreary days.





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Just Laugh

Sometimes, when things don't look so bright, you just have to remember to laugh.

“The human race has one really effective weapon, and that is laughter.”

                                                     ~Mark Twain

My Life as an Adam Sandler Movie

So, today, when telling one of my friend's a story about something that just happened, she made the comment that it was like something out of a bad soap opera or an Adam Sandler film.

This got me thinking about a couple of things: 1) Is my life really that crazy? (YES!), and 2) Which Adam Sandler film would best describe my life at this time?

Well, in my wildest dreams, I'd have 50 First Dates which would eventually lead to me hiring The Wedding Singer. Unfortunately, I seem to be stuck with The Waterboy, Little Nicky, or Airheads, all of whom test my Anger Management skills. I'd be so happy with a Big Daddy or a Mr. Deeds, but finding such a man is like trying to find the one peanut in a bowl of Mixed Nuts. And trying to communicate is like speaking Spanglish to a deaf man. I know it may sound like I'm Going Overboard, but, I promise, I don't let this Reign Over Me. There are just days when I wish I could Click the channel and skip at least Eight Crazy Nights. But, if I can't do that, I'll make sure my friends are Funny People and put myself to sleep with some happy Bedtime Stories.

"It's hard to soar with the eagles when you're surrounded by turkeys."

                                       ~ Longfellow Deeds
                                         (Adam Sandler in Mr. Deeds)

Random Quotes

These just spoke to me today.

“Don't ever give up on something or someone that you can't go a full day without thinking about.”

“Somewhere there is someone that dreams of your smile, and finds in your presence that life is worthwhile, so when you are lonely remember it’s true, someone somewhere is thinking of you.”

If Only...

"If only... " A very scary phrase. The words are normal enough, but the meaning of the phrase can lead to real problems.

"If only everything was perfect."
"If only he would listen to me."
"If only I had more time in the day."

There will always be "If only's." Life isn't perfect, so we will always want more. Problems arise, though, when our desire for more leads to inertia. We can dwell on what would make life perfect, but that will never LEAD to a perfect life.

So, I'm going to do my best to leave the scary stuff to the Halloween fanatics and say "If only..." a little less and "I will..." a little more.

“Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find ''tomorrow'' on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday's defeats and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, ''If I had my life to live over again. ''Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day! Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.”



                                                                                        ~ Og Mandino